Total Momsense

My life as a wife, mommy and more!

I hate the beach and mountains too ….

(You’ll start to see a theme with the titles pretty soon!)

My five year old currently hates me. He says I’m “mean.”

If mean is making him get dressed and go to school, brush and wash his teeth and face, keep his room cleaned up and generally behave as a decent human should …. then, yes, I’m mean as hell.

He’s five. He has no concept of what mean truly is.

I’m sure it won’t be until he’s around 18 or so that he’ll realize just how un-mean mom and dad truly are.

But it’s still pretty hurtful to hear him say it.

Child psychologists say not to take those words personally. My dear one has my personality (God help all those around us), and I can easily recognize his frustrations at me are often not directed at me at all.

Psychologists also say not to respond with an “I love you” when your child says I hate you or to tell them not to be angry. Both belittle their emotions – which children my son’s age are still trying to learn to do.

Instead, just as you did when they were two, tell your child to use their words — to tell you why they are angry or frustrated.

Let’s hope when school’s over today he’s back to his cheerful, loving self.

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Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end ….

My life is changing. After 11 years as a journalist, I’m “going to the dark side” and moving to marketing.

I’m scared. Very, very scared. I understand the ebb and flow of daily reporting and deadlines. I’m accustomed to angry readers, even angrier editors and conducting a phone interview with the mouthpiece turned where I can eat lunch at the same time.

What the hell have I done?

The job change really isn’t the focus of this blog, as you can see from the title! But I don’t believe there’s any aspect of my life that doesn’t somehow factor into my motherhood, so I’d be remiss if I didn’t say part of the career change comes as a result of trying to find more time for my son and hopefully future children.

Welcome to my blog. I hope you’ll enjoy it and return often.

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